Sunday, September 29, 2013

Id, Ego and super-ego: Freud's dynamic model of the mind.

The Id, Ego and Super-ego, according to Freud, are the three main elements of our mind system. They arouse our drives, motives and forces, however each and every of them arouse it's own ones, so the battles inside our mind go on constantly between different elements (or different levels of consciousness).

All of this three elements sometimes operates on both levels - not only on conscious, but on unconscious as well.  

Let's look a bit deeper into the nature of this 3 parts of our mind, fighting with each other for the right to be a leader in our daily life decisions. 

Id - the oldest part, which contains everything that is inherited, instinctive impulses.
It is a primitive or unconscious element of the psyche, an inaccessible area dealing only with our selfish needs. "I want it now" - that's our Id, our pleasure principle that ignores any rational, realistic reasons for "not getting it not, or not being able to get". 

Id can be seen to be very strong in Infants, whenever they are uncomfortable or want anything - they will scream until they get it. 
During the development of maturity children learn to suppress Id's desires, as from the nature Id is illogical, disorganized and completely amoral. 

Totally contrast to Id is Super-ego - our traditional inner grown-up, our sense of morals, wrong and right, pride and guilt. 
This part of our psycho is conscious and responding to social  rules: guide us to act in acceptable way for society, rather than for ourselves. 
Our behavior is "being watched"by Super-ego that puts taboo on and repress an "inappropriate" behavior. 

Super-ego has bossy nature, it always observe and direct the Ego, demanding the perfection

Ego, in it's turn, is the mediator between super-ego and Id. 
It deals with external reality and is a part of the psyche that person see as "Self". It is mostly always conscious part of your mind, but as I previously mentioned, it can operate from time to time on both levels. 

The Ego is practical, rational - it makes the decisions, create the ideas and the sense of reality. 
The ego is rather weak than strong in comparison to pushy Super-ego and demanding Id, but in the end of the day Ego is the one responsible for problem-solving, for maintaining the upper hand and for finding the compromise between Id and Super-ego.

Some people may have personality dissonance (when the person holds more than two different ideas, beliefs not matching with each other), according to Freud, it happens when Ego (The Self) are having difficulties to rationalize between Id and Super-ego and in the end makes the wrong decisions provoking the feeling of dissatisfaction, doubt, guilt, anger, embarrassment or even anxiety.

Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Fake it and you'll become it: Body language

I was always fascinated how our mind shapes the way we behave.

But once I've watched TED talk about how body language can change the way our mind thinks and the way we determine ourselves in the society I have discovered a new manner of approaching self-improvement. 

Well, the general idea is - we can FAKE it until we MAKE it and till we BECOME it! And it really opens your eyes on the fact that you CAN be who you WANT to be! . 

Oh yes, here is the link: http://youtu.be/Ks-_Mh1QhMc

Monday, September 23, 2013

What makes a joke funny?

Have you ever wonder, while laughing at just another joke, why you actually find it funny? 

There are several theories about why do we laugh at jokes, but the one we will be focusing on is "Superior Theory". 

The main idea of this theory is that jokes which we find the finniest have one common characteristic - they create the feeling of superior while we are reading or hearing them. 

How does in work? Well, we feel smart if we get a joke, we feel over the butt of the joke who appears to be stupid in it. 
Generally speaking, the more superior a joke makes us feel - the more we laugh. 

That is the reason why we enjoy making jokes about the authority, in real life it has power over us, while in the joke authority people look silly. 

Have you ever noticed how people from one country make jokes about people from another? British people laugh at Irish or Mexican at American, and the other way around. In this case one group of people make themselves feel better and smarter by making jokes about other group and laughing about how stupid they are. 

Lets use as an example one of the funniest universal jokes : 

Two hunters are out in the woods when one of them collapses. He doesn't seem to be breathing and his eyes are glazed. The other guy whips out his phone and calls the emergency services. He gasps, "My friend is dead! What can I do?" The operator says "Calm down. I can help. First, let's make sure he's dead." There is a silence, then a gun shot is heard. Back on the phone, the guy says "OK, now what?"

We laugh at this joke because we feel smarter than the "stupid hunter" and we understand (unlike him) that "make sure" in this context means "to check".
So first of all this joke is superior. 

But there are two more important elements in this joke that makes it funny.

One of them is - "we laugh at things that make us feel anxious", according to Sigmund Freid.  
That is the reason why old people find jokes about getting older funny, or a student will laugh out loud at a joke about exams.
In our example the "anxious" element is the second hunter death, it provokes in us an anxious feeling, as we hear about the death. 

And the last element is "a surprise" in the joke  or a "pun joke" - we didn't expect the hunter to interpret the operator's words in such a way and to shout his friend. 
As well as, we like the jokes where we can play with different word's meanings and the jokes with unexpected ending. 

So now you know that the three elements - "surprise", "anxious feelings" and "superior" are the absolute recipe for a damn funny joke!  

Cheers and clean jokes to everyone! 

Sunday, September 22, 2013

Ты не смотри таким тоскливым взглядом,
Слегка на стену преоблокотясь.
Ты слишком долго не был рядом,
Чтобы сейчас просить прощенья
воротясь.

Ты разговорами про прошлое не мучай,
Себе и мне ты душу не терзай.
Не приближайся, понадеявшись на случай,
Рукой руки коснуться невзначай.

И этот вечер, что ты выбрал для свиданья,
Я, не успев уйти, уже спешу забыть.
И на всю жизнь прошу тебя заранье -
Не приходить.
Ну за что, скажи, меня ты губишь?
Равнодушно держишь у дверей.
Ты меня оставишь, позабудешь
В одиноком сумраке ночей.
Посчитаешься нужным извиниться,
Холодно поправив мою прядь.
Скомкано попросишь удалиться -
Впредь меня не стоить навещать.
Не надумай себе, Я не нежная.
Не горячая - не согрею.
Ляпну лишнего, дура небрежная.
Не спасти, не спастись не сумею -
Не надежная я, непутевщина.
Позапутаю, взболомучу,
И любовь моя - поножовщина,
Изведу, измотаю, измучу.
Я ведь злая, душой мятежная,
Я обижу - не пожалею,
Не надумай себе, Я не нежная.
Не горячая - не согрею.

Saturday, September 21, 2013

Never

Adventurous heart will never stop to wander,
will never leave behind the chance to explore
the world, 
people,
books.

Universe


Self-creation is a spaceship to travel to your own universe.

Between 2 people

Such a harmonious relationship can be build between people who are holding similar General Ideas about the world, but different Ways of Approach to its composites.

The way they move to the Primary Goal together and give each other different ideas for solution along the road is just priceless and so inspiring.

В ленивое воскресение.

Сжимая мелочь в кармане,
Обходя глубоки лужи -
Я рада пройтись вместе с Вами, 
Но вы мне не нужен. 

Хватило случайной встречи, 
Нелепого столкновения
В такой вот, туманный, вечер, 
В ленивое воскресение. 

У подъезда ни откровений не будет,
Ни попыток на чай пригласить.
О прошлом, знаете-ли, не судят,
Прошу меня извинить.



Advantages

Because there are way more other personality advantages besides normality...

Туман в тумане

Туман в тумане прячется, 
Туман туманом кроется, 
А душа моя развратница
Всё не успокоится. 

Небом не засчитанная,
В списки не занесенная. 
Вся перекроено-перешитая,
Тобой развращенная.

Как в воде в тумане заплещется,
Заметается, забьется, 
Всё ей, бедняжке, мерещится, 
Что выход найдется.

Победа

Отпразднуй эту победу 
Со мной 
Надо мной.
В ближайшую жизнь не поеду
Домой. 

Останусь в твоей кровати
На кучу десятков лет.
Буду встречать в халате,
готовить обед. 

Отпразднуй эту победу 
Со мной 
Надо мной.
И вместе пойдем к соседу
За солью с банкой пустой. 
Отпразднуй эту победу со мной,
Ведь я стала ручной.

Никто ни к кому не привык

Вот только не надо нежностей.
Что за наивная дурь...
Мы все - заложники вечностей
Наших душевних бурь.

Вот только не надо нежностей.
Сегодня есть - завтра пройдет.
В этой системе погрешностей
Никто никогда не сочтет.

Вот только не надо нежностей.
И клятв, как бессмысленный пшык.
Давай разойдемся на честности -
Никто ни к кому не привык.

За честность.

Бывает так, что воевал за честность,
А перед самой правдой вдруг поник.
В сгущеном чае затерялась вечность,
А в сумраке погас ночник.
И вот теперь ты нагоняешь грусти
Усталым взглядом на усталую Луну.
Мой друг, я знаю, что печаль тебя отпустит
И ты уснешь, и я усну...

Бывает так, что воевал за честность.
Бывает так. Вот только не с тобой
- Мой друг, куда девалась человечность?
А ты стоишь с поникшей головой.

Бывает так, что совесть загрызает
Тебе ведь это не в новинку, да?
Гляди, луна на небе выгорает...
Тебе идти пора, и мне пора.